Yeah yeah, i know. The dating game sucks and i got shafted in the end of this one. Was dumped over the phone today and it was over stupid reasons that didn't make any sense or was out of arrogance. If you guys see me down for the next few weeks, that is why.
Welcome mate, got dumped myself in Oct. 3 year relationship down the drain! Trust me, you may not think so right now but everything happens for a reason! Join me in forgetting 2013 one day at a time.
thanks guys. but the lead up didn't make any sense. got back from visiting ex yesterday, got a call from her today that she wants to break up. Reason: imcompatible, doesn't want to change who I am, and then tries to say that she is not good enough for me and is unstable. I call bull shit on it because all of those things is what can make or break a relationship if one side or the other is not willing to work with it. I was willing, she was not. Hell, she had this thought since yesterday after i asked her how long has she been thinking of doing this. I feel like i was lied to, cheated out of this relationship by someone outside of the relationship. Probably by her parents or her having feelings for her ex still.
best advice I can give you is don't attempt to rationalise the cause of a breakup, shit is never easy or understandable really. More so it seems when a woman breaks it off with a man.
The way I see it, if she was willing to dump you for such reasons, then she wasn't (and isn't) worth your time or energy.
I rise a drink to you. If you want revenge or feel really shitty, do what I did. tell an embarrassing story about her to the podcast of your choice. its like a free therapy session.
Well, that sucks man. I feel for you, I really do. Unfortunately, I don't have much advice for you. My ex turned out to be a psycho, actually was admitted to unit 9(our psychotherapy ward), and at that point, I stopped trying to figure out what the fuck was going through her mind.
This. I would have said it myself, but I have already been banned from WoW for saying something like that and I wouldn't like to repeat that experience.
They are crazy, end of story. But really you will find the right one eventually, the girl I was about to marry ended up being so scared of committing to the point that she left. Lately I've been talking to a girl who blows the ex away, things do get better.
Where is she, I'll beat her up. Just keep this in mind, everything turns out good in the end, if it's not good, it's not the end.
Me and my wife are going through a rough time also, I vacillate between giving up and trying to patch things together, In my case her parents actively hate me which makes things worse. But the sooner you discover that it isn't going to work out is really better. Now is the time for you to move on, chances are very good you will meet someone else that you are more in sync with. Just never give up hope, at least never give it up for long.
This! You were most likely not even given the true information, so trying to understand false information is just an uphill battle. For some reason, we never want to tell the truth when we break up with someone. I've had this happen to me, and I've been on the giving end of it as well. Most likely since we did once care about the other person, we don't want to truly hurt their feelings so we come up with nonsense. On the bright side, the dating game is much more open and faster these days. Much easier to meet people, and much easier to communicate with people without fully extending yourself, i.e. facebook, texting, etc... All my buddies that have recently been divorced or ended long relationships have been staggered by how much easier it is to meet people these days... Hang in there bud, it truly always gets better day by day. You will meet someone that is meant for you, and you will look back on this and you shake your head in disbelief about how down you got over her. I have two exes that I still see around town that I just laugh to myself about how down I got, and how much of a better place I am in now....
Really? Easier? Maybe it's because I live in Canada..... Single for three years, and the closest I've gotten to another relationship is three friend zones.
Don't listen to these people who will give you sensible, well thought out advice. What you want to do is get angry. Fuckin' angry. You want to buy at least 50 dollars worth of PCP, down it all with an entire bottle of Jack Daniels, go to the bitches' house, take any pets she might have and stuff those dead little fuckers in her mailbox... Or slot, whichever... And then, you wait. You wait for her to get home, standing patiently in her living room. Rage, hate, confusion, hurt, bitterness. It all radiates off your bloodstained body as you let your mind fill with the vicious things you're going to do to that cunt when she gets home. The joy you'll feel when she finds her precious Precious broken in several places and awkwardly stuffed into her mailbox is NOTHING to the sheer euphoria that will overtake you when the bitch walks into her living room to find you standing there. Then, when she finally arrives... ... .. . You get down on one knee, you reach for your pocket, and you pull out the ring you made out of the bones of her dead grandparents, and bound in the flesh of her closest friends, and you ask the bitch to marry you. If she says no, you kill her and fuck the corpse.
At the end of truth At the end of light At the end of love At the end - there are you Nothing has survived We separated silently long ago And with every day of 'we' the lie of our love grew And the further we travelled our path together The further we drifted apart Lonely - together We've forgotten how to search each other Habit blurs the vision Lethargy suffocates the senses Pride intoxicates the mind And the nearness drives apart Dance - my life - dance Dance with me Dance with me Once again into that Pure ecstasy of naked love And when I look at him When I experience her When I see the two of us Something has survived And if I were to find strength and hope If I still had faith in us If I could get through to her/him If I could have her/him once again myself If we could return to the basics - our foundation If we would rediscover us again If only she/he wanted to I do! (artist unknown) I really feel sorry for you. It happened so often in my life I can not count it, and I don't want. But I know how you feel very good. But finally I found a girl that wanted to go with me through the night and all the way to death, gave birth to my children who will carry on the magic when I am no more. I am absolutely sure that you, you will find a girl like I did and you will have what I have sooner or later. I believe in love and I am absolutely sure that for everyone, someone is out there. Just one advise, and you are welcome to turn it down, don't try to hard. It will come when you least expect it. Thats my experience from myself and also from my friends I hold dear. It jumps into your life and you might not even know it from the beginning. My thoughts are with you in this hard time. Take a break sincerely Sönke
